Many people have said to me, "What a pity you had such a big family to raise. Think of the novels and the short stories and the poems you never had the time to write because of that." And I looked at my children and I said, "These are my poems. These are my short stories."- Olga Masters

Monday, February 20, 2012

Remember When...


2005 ~ Remembering when we moved to this house. And my then three little kids looked like this. And apparently I was delusional then to let them play "stuff your mouth with grapes." Today, Big Guy spent his afternoon emailing our mayor about some boy scout project, working on new guitar chords and helping his Dad push a car out of some mud. In August he starts high school. Sigh.

Sweet Girl is growing into her name. She is everyone's friend. And for that I'm thankful and glad. Her little BFF spent the night over and they giggled and braided hair and practiced mascara techniques until the wee hours of early President's Day. 

Did he really look like this inside these four walls? What I would give to have my little man's cheeks back just like that! On the other hand, it was at just that age that he wore me slap out and we went through band -aids and liquid stitch almost as fast as milk. There are some advantages to growing up.  He's not grown up yet.... I have to remind him of that. Still not hit that crazy break-neck growth spurt like his older siblings have - so he appears a good bit shorter than the other two. This is just fine by me. He'll be single digits another couple months but always, always my baby boy. Today, he and his friend spent the entire afternoon fishing. I didn't hear a peep from them. When I drove down to the pond to deliver some milkshakes, he lingered to get his last and then craned his neck up in the window to give me a kiss and a thank you. Melt.




Hubs and I agree - These are the years!!!!! We're really having the time of our life. This is when the lasting memories are made. Not the foggy ones - but the story telling, tear jerking, gut wrenching, belly laughing memories. We recalled last night that we have about 5 years before the house begins to get increasingly quiet.

And with that thought and a lump in my throat, I'm determined to make the absolute best of the next five years and try not to think about it. And also really hoping the kids bring their loud friends home to make up for it.



Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Now I know what a lap blanket is



I'm working on some clandestine ideas for Sweet Girl's new look in her room. She's been longing for a grown up makeover and I'm pondering it as her birthday gift.

Pinterest is full of all the pretty pictures (have mercy) but the links don't always take me right to the part where I pay and check out. Sigh.

 Such is the case for most of my  pretty vintage finds in quilts.

The picture is there - but usually it is advertising the fabric and intends for me to actually make the thing myself. Ha. Snort. ORRRR it is a great, artsy masterpiece that the owner never in a million years intends to part with but just wants to show off to the rest of the world on Pinterest. In either scenario ~ I leave annoyed.

Quilt

Alas,  I'm left to cruise the rest of the world wide web looking for something charming and vintage sans the mothballs and frayed edges that's actually already MADE and on the market. I guess what I'm really wanting is  new but want it to look old. 

Is that too much to ask?
The main thing is that it can't appear to be too old or she'll never go for it. 

Young. Happy. Vintage. - in other words a perkier old fashioned quilt.

I thought I had found one and was waxing over whether or not it seemed too dated........
when my eyes fell to the description underneath the picture, penned by the seamstress.... or quilter. 
Do you call them quilters? 

It read: "Perfect size for a wheelchair lap blanket".

Question Answered. Moving On.

Monday, February 13, 2012

Good for the Soul ~A Lantern in her Hand~



A delightful historical fiction entitled "A Lantern in Her Hand" has captivated my reading time this month. It's the first fiction I've read in a while and reminds me again why I miss it. The story is set back in a simpler time when families worked hard, prayed and loved harder.

It seems a striking contrast to 2012 to read that mothers didn't analyze their roles like we do now, reading about ideas and perspectives on their "calling, contrasting and comparing at every possible opportunity, and never neglecting to throw in the unique temperament and personality of the children as the new guide for living. They were not so hurried and bothered and easily offended. I imagine it was not because there was nothing over which to take offense, but rather there was simply no time or energy to devote to maintaining heartache. A mother  was in far too high demand for that.

No, back then there was no time or tolerance for such self analysis and absorption. 

Rather a mother of small children put one foot in front of the other doing the next thing she had been taught by her mother that she should do.  Certainly mistakes were made and lessons learned. Nevertheless, my heart is warmed and challenged to reflect on a slower, quieter, and by far, harder time that, no doubt, stretched mothers far past a modern day breaking point. 

It does my soul good to be reminded that much can be overcome in the setting of the mind and through prayer. 

A recurring theme  repeated chapter after chapter and generation after generation is: intense gratitude for family love in its purest form. Time, money and  sacrifice were given to simply pass on all that is important to the ones coming up.

To simply pass on.......... lovingly.

Taken from "A Lantern in her Hand" Bess Streeter Aldrich

Abbie Deal looked out of the window, down through the long row of cedars. (Remembering)  Instead of the cedars, heavy with snow, she was looking into a sod-house where a little painted blackboard stood against the mud-plastered walls, seeing one shelf of books and a slate and some ironed pieces of brown wrapping-paper. The mother there was hearing reading lessons while she kneaded bread, was teaching songs while she scrubbed, was giving out spelling words while she mended, was instilling into childish minds, ideals of honesty and clean living with every humble task.






Thursday, February 9, 2012

When I'm a Grandma~

When I'm a Grandma ~



And I'm not dwelling on that thought too much but I want to remember to do this.  This afternoon, we're getting ready to go see Mom and Dad for a night or two.... get some sewing done upstairs.... eat some good food..... play some cards no doubt and just soak up sweet parents and grandparents that we haven't seen all month.

My mom does this thing. I don't know where she got the idea except maybe too many late night trips to Walgreens for a forgotten something of one of the grands.

No more.

Now there is a toothbrush at her house for every grandchild. With their name on it.

Also, a large tub... maybe now two large tubs of clothes where you can certainly find something to fit. With 13 grands ages 13 to 1 she can grab any clearance item from underoos to sweatshirts and tights and it's bound to fit someone. So, over the years she has done just that.

And pajamas. Pajamas for everyone. And socks. Did I mention socks?

Now when we go to visit- I don't bother with toothbrushes or pajamas.... and don't fret too much on the play clothes because there is always a clean set there if we need it.

When kids get invited for an impromptu stay over at Bebe and Papas, we don't need to worry because we didn't plan and bring clothes or toothbrushes. It's there.


Just another way my mom is brilliant. And another way she loves her kids and grandkids. In her own simple, wonderful, quiet, real way. Her home welcomes them. They know it. They see how she lovingly prepares for them to be there. And they feel what I felt my whole life. Valued. Special. Important.

Who knew a toothbrush and soft pjs could say so much.

And this afternoon as I'm packing up stuff for 5 kids.... and not having to work too hard at it..... I'm feeling her love.


Thanks Mom. See you in a few.




Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Remember When





I ran across this older photo of my younger Dad and it reminded me of a cute puppy named Mercy. Well, it reminded me of the story of Mercy. Mercy was their "pre-children" outlet for love and affection and playtime.

The little pup was named after the Shepherds Psalm:

 "Surely goodness and MERCY shall 
follow me all the days of my life."


I was telling that story to the kids the other night when they were asking me AGAIN for a dog and since I couldn't think of a sweet, compassionate way to say "not going to happen," I said "Hey! Did i tell you the story about Bebe and Papa's little dog named Mercy."

They thought it was pure brilliance. And it makes me grin every time I tell it.

And isn't my Dad just a handsome dude? 

Monday, January 30, 2012

My favorite things about January and why we need a pool

The good news is that last Tuesday was supposedly the saddest day of the year and I didn't even know about it......until Wednesday. We weren't all that sad here. Have you ever heard of such? Who keeps track?

The bad news is that kids are still sick. I will refrain from health updates on this blog as much as I can but this month is almost comical. Since before Thanksgiving we have battled some sort of mality. I blame it on the fact that we had no pool this summer and our vitamin D is at an all-time low. My reasoning to save on medical expense by replacing the pool may or may not be effective on the Hubs. 

Reports forthcoming.

 From the oldest to the youngest,starting with bronchitis, it was a snotty holiday season with tea pots and netty pots not too far from each other. And not the bad cold kind -that the doc calls "bronchitis" but you can really manage. No, this was a pretty stout case that wiped out my big guy who has the immune system of a Swedish teenager......... like Kramer on Seinfeld. And then managed to sweep down through the ranks so that Hubs and I had extra littles in our bed 3 nights out of five.

We were one week away from taking a test for Big Guy's high school placement next year and all I could picture was this snorting, sneezing eighth grader mummified in toilet paper in a class room of strangers trying to concentrate and focus on algebra and verbal analogies in between snot rockets (his description.... not mine).

As if eighth grade isn't awkward enough. 

To add insult to injury... it was about this time last year when we were on our way to a Geography Bee and Big Guy was suffering with more of the same. My last stop before the school was Walgreens. And in my effort to pick out a non-drowsy antihistamine ..... I inadvertently purchased just the opposite. 

i know.

it gets worse. 

we realized it after Big Guy had ingested a couple. 

When he emerged from his testing room, his comment to me was "I just feel so relaxed ..... and sleepy."

He won 4th that day. I still can't decide if the meds cost him a higher spot or if it slowed his normally racing brain down just enough to focus. 

Since he won first in this year's Geo Bee, I'm going with the notion that a substance free academic competition is best.

We moved from December drainage to Christmas shingles for me, to New Years stomach virus for the kids and then January chicken pox for the kids..... courtesy of my shingles. 

I love family time.

 I was so careful about the shingles.They were rather contained... but still.
 I shared.
 And shingles??? Seriously??

The upside of being sick and stuck at home for a month is getting an enormous amount of school done. I may or may not have overheard my name in the same sentence with "nazi" this week.

But let not your heart be troubled, my little children,.... give me some April sunshine,and we are a serious threat to the great outdoors, parks, picnics, and  boxed up math books. And I don't really like to write very much about school, but the truth of it is.... it's pretty much all we do these days. Which is better than if I said, we didn't do much of it.... because it's sort of my job.

The kids have really enjoyed competing in some academic competitions of their choice. Our local school district let Sweet Girl come and compete in their spelling bee. It was her first time to do that and I thought she did great. She freaked out unnecessarily because she imagined that all the kids in our county are like Akeelah and the bee. As much as I tried to assuage her that this was most likely not the case.... she fretted on. So, she missed a word she knew and then she was outraged about it. But determined to go back next year with the proper perspective and win!!!! That's my girl!!!!

Then all three older kids took on the National Geographic Bee with some local home schooled students. Big Guy is a Geography guru. He really loves it. 

He actually pictures our world geographically. 

As in maps and rivers and mountain ranges and bays and what countries are next to other countries.

I cannot fathom this.

I picture my Rand McNally Atlas all crumpled up in the car at my disposal if I ever care to look for something. Or helloooooo .............Google Maps!!!!  I know all the states and capitols of teams in the SEC and can find them on a map - and that has always been plenty good enough.

Me: "Fancy that - I didn't realize that country was right there on the coast like that. How fun!!!!"
"No wonder they call it Prince Edward Island."

Him: "MOMMMMMM - are you for real?"

Me: "Oh I'm for real alright. Now, hand me the answer book and tell me the capitol of Uzbekistan."

In all seriousness, I'm not proud of my geographically challenged brain. The lack of world geography knowledge among students is pretty astounding. It is important to me to keep it included in our curriculum, but since it doesn't come easy for this teacher, imagine my relief to have a couple boys that are naturally interested to pursue it. 

Little Man more or less likes to compete at just about anything and Sweet Girl took one for the team that day and endured her questions like a champ.The fourth through eighth grades participate together. So it was Big Guy's last year and Little Man's first. I think boys just like maps more than girls. Maybe it's the whole pirate thing. Big Guy will find out soon if he qualified to compete at the state level. Against all the "school kids".

Insert boogy man sounds.

Why do home schooled kids so often assume that kids in school are automatically smarter?

I don't tell my kids that they are smarter than all the school kids - even if I believe it.

Can't have a bunch of pompous brats. But still, I assumed it when I was young. We don't generally make the comparisons at all..... but still they assume it. So, my big boy is studying his pants off these days to learn the likely locations of a fjord and a fault, where to find Pamukkale and Moeraki. And to remember the "Nine hells of Beppu" are in Japan, while "Hell's Door" is actually in Turkemenistan.

Yeah. He's pumped.

I'm ready for summer.

There's a whole blog post brewing in my head about healthy academic competition and motivated students. Not for today though. But in summary. I like it. I believe it has been good  for my children. They  need to do it enough so the pressure is lessened each time. In most venues it will be a reality for them sooner or later. Unless our President gets his way and then they will always and only be as good as the kid sitting next to them. God help us.

Big Guy took a test in December, hence the emergent dose of antibiotics, to apply at a local boy's school for his freshman year. It's a big deal for all of us. I'll have to write more about that another time. But the whole test preparation and rehearsing has been a good learning experience for him and me. And made me grateful for all those timed tests we've taken over the years.The truth of it is, when the boy is in a quiet classroom, and a calm testing environment, he does fine with the time he's given. It must be something about our home that creates mild distractions for him.

Imagine that.

There are perks to being imprisoned  nestled in at home for two months. My ovens are clean... maybe for the first time in 9 months. I've mopped more than once and it's still the same calendar month. The kids sleep on clean sheets every week, whether they need it or not. I've enjoyed starting some books although, I probably won't finish... but that's not a great attitude. In the evenings, when we're not filling in blank maps or looking up natural wonders, we make french press and eat "white donuts" (powdered) while catching up on all the republican debates and primaries.... and talking politics and economics with my two kids who care... or who want to stay up late so they feign caring.

On a side note..... in my twenties, I bought white donuts every single week at the grocery store. EVERY. SINGLE. WEEK. Then the kids starting wising up to what they were and eating them. And that was the end of that nice little story. But every once in a while I cave to the begging.

I think Baby Girl is the one who officially named them "white" donuts. Like she called her favorite coconut cake.... "the white cake with all the stuff on it". Took me a while to interpret that. But now we both share a favorite cake - so it's all good.


Hubs made the kids a new running chart with prize incentives along the way.Track starts in a mere 6 weeks and we're going to beat a path around these two acres in return for cold hard cash. It's amazing what they'll do for money. Kind of like miniature adults.Problem is when racing season is here - we'll have to let them down easy that it's freeby- time. Run for the glory and the good feelings you get. Because Mom and Dad are broke now. If you're lucky, we'll hit a Happy Hour on the way home at Sonic.... and that's about as good as it's gonna get.

If you're wondering where some pictures are...... my camera has been tucked away in it's case. Did I mention we have contagion going on here? Can't have any toxic fluids on my camera.

In the meantime, here's one from Christmas at Lake Fort Smith (also a post coming soon)
Sweet Girl is working on her cowgirl ripstick combination.  P.S. All she asked for at Christmas. Those boots. Praying her feet stop growing already.




The babes. Not sure she's all that jazzed about the puffy coat. Way too much restriction.

 





Thursday, January 12, 2012

~Someday~


Some day I will have a kitchen that stays clean  longer than an hour.



And I'll eat my lunch in peace and quiet.





Some day the floors and counters will not stay sticky. 


And only one pair of shoes will be kicked off by the back door.




Some day I'll have uninterrupted reading time -- any time of day I want it.




Some day the groceries and the gas will last a little longer,







And some day I can sleep in any day of the week.




But I imagine......... on THAT DAY - Some day......... I'll miss THIS DAY very much.



"Thank you Jesus for THIS DAY and all that you bring to it for our good and YOUR glory. And for my little flock of five that you have knit together, designed, created and placed here, all at the same time to grow together, learning to love and look to You. May they know fullness of joy in Your arms and life everlasting in Your saving grace."




"Sanctify and prosper my domestic devotion,
instruction, discipline, example,
that my house may be a nursery for heaven,
my church the garden of the Lord,
enriched with trees of righteousness of thy planting, 
for thy glory."
Taken from Valley of Vision






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